Suburbaknight is right. In his comment on my recent Non-Dancers post, he responded back that the difficulty I’m talking about is really all about making sure that your partner understands the importance of your dancing…and how hard it can be to explain it to someone who doesn’t already “get it”. It’s just like any other major interest/hobby/time-suck. It would be the same if I was a workaholic, I suppose.
And yes, social dancing isn’t all about dating…unless you make it that way. In my post, I was talking about the importance of an interest in social dancing in choice of mate, but I think my post may have come across as saying that social dancing is ALL about the search for a mate. And you are so right, suburbaknight, it’s not. It’s a physical social interaction, but not necessarily romantic or sexual in nature unless you decide that that’s what it’s about.
How many of us have had an awkward experience while social dancing? You step out with someone, and discover that you and your partner are on the floor for different reasons. One of you is just out there to be friendly and social and to feel sexy, but not in a targeted way. The other person is, hmm, a little more targeted. Both are legitimate reasons for being out there, but MAN, can that crossed-vibes thing feel weird.